I walk with a friend, a member of the Quaker group, Towards a newspaper stand that night, he bought a newspaper, he politely thanked the seller. But the newspaper seller does not care about these words.
"People who are not polite, huh?" I said.
"Oh, every night he always does," my friend denied.
"Then why do you continue to be so polite to him?" I asked.
"Why not?" she snapped. "Why did I let him determine how I'm going to act?"
As I thought about the incident later, appears to me that the important phrase is "action." ACTING friend to others; Most of us react to them.
He has a sense of mental balance that does not exist in most besarkita; he knows who he is, for what it be, and how it will behave. He did not want to reply lack of politeness with irreverence, karema with that he was no longer able to control his behavior.
We are instructed to return good for evil, we regard it as a moral authority that is indeed so. In fact it is also a psychological advice for our mental health.
Nothing is more miserable than those who react continuously. Central control of his emotions are not rooted in him, where the center is located, but from the world outside itself. Temperatures soul always increases or decreases because the social climate around him, and he is only a creature which is under the control of elements - elements.
Flattery made him feel very happy, that this is wrong, because it does not end and beginning of complacency. Criticism made him feel depressed more than necessary, because the weak assumption that convincing criticism in close up on him. Growl made him feel sick, and little suspicion are disliked in certain cases make it grow poignant.
Peace of mind can not be achieved until we master the action of our own actions and attitudes. Let others decide whether we are right to be rude or to be forgiving, excited or depressed, is handing over control of our own personality, which fully is our right. The only control is self-control actually be met.
Source, Mind power, SYDNEY J.HARIS
by, Prof. dr. Soemarmo Markam